8 month old wakes the second I put her down

Started by Chen · May 25, 2025 · 5 replies
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Chen

about 1 year ago

She falls asleep in my arms in about 5 minutes but the instant her back touches the cot mattress her eyes fly open and the screaming starts. We've done this transfer maybe six times tonight already.

I'm not ready for full cry-it-out but I genuinely cannot keep contact-napping a 9kg baby all night. Has anyone found a middle ground that actually worked?

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Maria G.

about 1 year ago

The wait-and-pick-up approach saved us at around 7 months. Put her down drowsy but awake, and if she cries you pick up to calm, then put back down. It's slow and your arms will hate you for a week but it taught her the cot isn't a scary place.

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Vera O.

about 1 year ago

Try warming the mattress with a hot water bottle before the transfer (take it OUT before she goes down, obviously). The cold sheet was a huge wake trigger for ours. Game changer for like £4.

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James

about 1 year ago

Honestly the drowsy-but-awake thing never worked for us, she'd just escalate. What did work was putting her down fully awake at the start of the night and staying beside the cot with a hand on her chest. Took about 10 days to fade out.

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James B.

about 1 year ago

Are you keeping a hand on her chest for a minute after she's down before you sneak away? That pressure transition really helped our transfer. Also how long has the awake window been? Overtired made our put-downs impossible.

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Nina I.

about 1 year ago

UPDATE from OP: the warm mattress tip plus putting her down properly awake instead of asleep was the combo. Three nights of protest and now she rolls to her side and goes off on her own. I cried (happy tears). Thank you all.

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